There is a very delicate balance of energy that exists between every mom and her child. Tip the scales too far on one side, and it can negatively affect that energy. That is why it’s very important to have a healthy balance between mom and baby.
It is similar to that of a balance scale with mom on one side and baby on the other. The perfect scale rests at neutral, with an equal amount of mass on each plate.
You don’t need to go for perfect because that will just add extra stress to your life. The plates are going to constantly shift back and forth, and that’s okay. However, ideally, both plates will rest close to neutral as frequently as possible.
If you have too many days where your baby’s plate is touching the ground and yours is all the way up in the air, then your energy levels are going to plummet. You can’t achieve balance between mom and baby if you’re ONLY focusing on your baby and forgetting about yourself.
Why is this balance important?
I’ve talked to moms who feel guilty anytime they do something for themselves. You do not stop existing when you become a mom, and your mental health is very important.
Being a mom is an amazing, super important role with a ton of responsibility. However, you are still here also. As in you, the person.
We may all have different roles in our lives such as mom, wife, daughter, sister, and friend, and that is great. Those roles are important and meaningful, but they are only PART of you. They do not define you. In other words, you can’t forget about who you are as a person.
You are happier, sharper, and more confident when your batteries are CHARGED. When your batteries are charged, you have more energy to focus on your child and other things in your life.
I’m sure you also want a healthy balance for your child when he or she becomes a parent. The best way to show your child how to do this is to lead by example.
How do you achieve balance?
In order to get a healthy balance between mom and baby, YOU need to be on your priority list. It is absolutely possible to put your baby first, and still make yourself a priority.
A great way to try to achieve balance is to write down ALL of the things that charge your batteries. For example, maybe showers, working out, listening to a podcast, or reading charge your batteries.
It is important to include things that take a short amount of time. This way, you can make sure to do something that charges your batteries every day, even on days when you don’t have much time.
Every day is different. There will be days when you are able to do a lot for yourself. There will be some days when you aren’t able to do as much for yourself, and that’s okay!
You can look at this list every day and incorporate at least one thing, if not more, into your schedule. If you make an active effort to prioritize yourself, I promise that you will get results.
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What do you do to charge your batteries? Please share in the comments below!